Book Summary: Self Motivation
Gail Lindenfield is a well-known British author who has
written several self-help books. In Self Motivation, she
does a good job of going over many aspects of self
development and she provides solutions to a variety of
everyday problems. Challenges - make sure that are truly enjoyable and that
the outcome is worth the risk. Success is built on an
astute ability to synchronize challenge and chance. Risk - before taking a risk, imagine and face the worst
possible outcome. Principles - before starting a project- list your
principles and ideals. Keep a clear distinction between
core (unbending) values and more flexible ones. Fear - learn to take control to your response to fear so
that you can reclaim your full quota of natural courage.
Don't take on any more fear than what you have judged is
controllable by your current store of courage. Energy - value and use it economically. Use the rhythm of
your own energy cycles to your best advantage. Calm concentration - work on putting yourself into a
focused and relaxed state where the body is free of
tension and the mind is clear and energized.
Concentration exercise - count backwards from 50, as
soon as the mind wanders, go back to 50 and start again
until you get it all. Organization - you must be able to draw upon order when
you need it and loosen its restraints when you do not. Decision making - accept that decision making is
stressful. Focus on taking care of yourself while under
pressure rather than making a premature decision. Self presentation - never sell out on your individuality.
Don't penny pinch on presentation - a high class look
will give you a high class feel. Problem solving - accept responsibility for solving your
own problems. Intuition - make a habit of listening for, and noting
down your intuitive response whenever you need to make
a decision. Individuality - ask yourself regularly if
you are being yourself. Remind yourself that many of
those who have contributed most were individualistic
characters. Action signals - these are symptoms that you feel that
require immediate action. Here are several action signals
along with a brief summary of her recommended solutions: 1. Guilt
2. Frustration
3. Disappointment
4. Inadequacy
5. Anger
6. Loneliness Self criticism - make a short self-criticism session
part of your daily habit: What could you have done
better today? What didn't you do that you should have
done today? Reframe self put-downs into a neutral
format. Self forgiveness - it's important to regularly forgive
yourself because you are constantly changing and
developing, and it is impossible to do this without
getting it wrong many times. Assertiveness - Practice using your directness in
low-charged emotional situations first. Deal with
your unassertiveness before tension mounts up and
you over react to the situation. Self protection - don't waste time and energy arguing
with people if their opinion is of no value to you.
Reveling in success without fear of failure - Double
your rate of failure. Failure is a teacher - a harsh
one, perhaps, but the best you can be discouraged
by failure or learn from it, said Thomas Watson of
IBM. . States to strive for: 1. Visionary thinking without idle dreaming.
2. Unashamed neediness without selfish greediness.
3. Eternal optimism without denying common sense.
4. Guru worshipping without blind following.
5. Sound self-esteem without ignorant arrogance.
6. Thirst for challenge without imprudent impatience.
7. Steadfast principles without narrow prejudice.
8. Consistent courage without thoughtless gambling.
9. Endless energy without debilitating burnout.
10.Prepared proactively without disregard for
opportunity.
11.Solid responsibility without rigid perfectionism.
12.Calm concentration without repressed creativity.
13.Systematic organization without obtuse obsessing.
14.Meticulous planning without stubborn inflexibility.
15.Sharp decisiveness without blindness to
consequences.
16.Slick self-presentation without enslavement to
fashion.
17.Positive problem solving without immunity to
despair.
18.Reliable intuition without acting on every hunch.
19.Searching self-reflection without frustrating
self-absorption.
20.Pride in individuality without disregard for human
commonality.
21.Deep emotionality without enslavement to feelings.
22.Stringent self-criticism without suffocating
self-abuse.
23.Intolerance of excuses without deafness to their
message.
24.Sincere self-forgiveness without self-inflicted
punishment.
25.Personal power without disempowering others.
26.Assertive directness without thoughtless
insensitivity.
27.Skilled self-protection without harmful
aggression.
28.Perpetually learning without devaluing my
own wisdom.
29.Seriously focused without humorless solemnity.
30.Sensibly self-nurturing without spurning
support.
31.Seeker of solitude without reclusive aloofness.
32.Reveling in success without fear of failure.
33.Scrupulously self-healing without dismissing
comfort.
34.Amply self-rewarding without rejecting
recognition.
35.Inwardly driven without scorning incentives Key thoughts: "Be more concerned with your character than your
reputation, because characte is what you really
are, while your reputation is merely what others
think you are."
-John Wooden, college basketball coach "Although they only give gold medals in the field
of athletics, I encourage everyone to look into
themselves and find their own personal dream,
whatever that may be - sports, medicine, law,
business, music, writing, whatever. The same
principles apply. Turn your dream into a goal and
learn how to attack that goal systematically.
Break it into bite-size chunks that seem possible,
and then don't give up. Just keep plugging away."
- John Naber, swimmer, four-time Olympic Gold
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